Monday, January 3, 2011

My Holiday Break

I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas and New year's. I definitely enjoyed my time off from work, and it was good to take a break from blogging as well.

Mark and I did all sorts of fun stuff over the holidays. On Christmas Eve we went out for a spectacular dinner at one of the city's best restaurants, Incanto. Jess came to visit for a couple days, we spent New year's Eve at the home of some friends, I finished a couple of knitting projects as well as 2 books, and we spent plenty of time just relaxing at home...

Oh, and we got married. HA! Betcha weren't expecting that!

I look like a giant in these photos; it's the fabulous Fluevog boots.

We had a simple ceremony at beautiful San Francisco City Hall on December 29th.
Our little ceremony, with friends gathered around. We didn't get mayor Gavin Newsom 
to perform the ceremony, but the justice who did was great.

Here's one of Laura and I; note how the next couple is already in place behind us. 
The ceremonies take only about 10 minutes, which is just perfect in my book.

I loved the origami cranes decorating the Christmas tree.

Here's a better view of the headpiece I made. I like how Mark opted for a yellow shirt 
and matching pocket square, instead of boring white.

City Hall is such a grand venue; I can't think of a better place to get married.

My dress has a long and very complicated story, the gist of which is that by a stroke of good fortune and coincidence I managed to snag the very last one in existence, which just happened to be on sale and in my size. It was a dress I'd been stalking for many months, with no justification whatsoever to buy until I realized it would make a fabulous casual wedding dress that's totally wearable for everyday too. It turned out to be one of those meant-to-be purchases. The designer is Miriam Ocariz and the dress is made of a lightweight, boiled wool; I found it via Farfetch from a shop in London called Labour of Love. I also wore my Noa Noa tulle underskirt, John Fluevog boots, and the handmade fascinator I made myself. The little beaded handbag is one I've had for awhile; I can't remember where it came from.

Our wedding ceremony was in the afternoon; later that evening we got a group of friends together at Mandalay, a casual restaurant that serves delicious Burmese food. When the waiter found out we'd just been married, he offered to play some wedding music for us. Expecting a traditional Burmese song, we were a bit shocked when the Mendelsohn Wedding March came on full blast over the speakers and everyone in the restaurant turned to look at us.

Fawn captured this great action shot of the hilarity that ensued.

And that was pretty much it. We spent roughly 20 minutes online making our appointments (one to get our marriage license and one for the actual ceremony), an hour or so picking out some simple wedding bands and ordering them (from Esty seller Artisan Impact), maybe another half hour sending out emails to our invitees, a few minutes making the dinner reservation, another hour at City Hall for our two separate appointments, and a couple hours at dinner. A whole wedding planned and executed in under 6 hours.

Later this summer we're going to throw a reception, but taking the wedding part out of it means it will be as stress-free as having a regular party. It also means we won't be up to our ears in debt when the whole thing is over. I'm a firm believer that everyone should plan their wedding according to their own tastes, but I feel like a giant debt isn't a great way to start off a marriage, and I loved avoiding all the hassle and fanfare. I got to enjoy our day even more, knowing it hadn't meant countless arguments and expense to get there.

So, what did you do during the holiday break?

98 comments:

Fer said...

congratulations, Audi! :)

ashe mischief said...

AHHHH! What a way to have a Merry Christmas & happy New Year-- Congratulations!!!

LPC said...

Congratulations! Your dress is wonderful and you two look gorgeous together. What a great way to get married. Just fantastic. Best wishes to you both.

Deja Pseu said...

Best Wishes to you two crazy kids!!

Cel said...

Hah wow, congratulations! :) I spent my holidays relaxing, and went to a psytrance NYE party in Montreal.

Rebecca said...

Congratulations. That's a beautiful dress.

Susan said...

What a wonderful surprise! Best wishes for a great new year and many more years of happiness together.

Megan Mae said...

Congrats, what a beautifully executed wedding.

My holiday wasn't nearly as eventful. Just full of family and friends and good times. And thankfully no drama.

Melanie said...

Congratulations!!! I read your blog every time you post, but I rarely comment. This was enough to come out of lurking! :)

Allie said...

Dag, Blogger ate my comment!

I was writing about how utterly gorgeous you looked - the dress divine, the fascinator perfect. What a wonderful wedding - intimate, personal, true to the two of you and just perfect. Thank you for sharing with us!!

Best wishes to you two!

Tiffany said...

Congratulations! What a beautiful looking ceremony in a beautiful location!

Alison said...

Aw, Congratulations you guys! Your dress is just gorgeous and meant to be for sure. Mark looks great too, love the yellow!

Melanie said...

Congratulations & best wishes!!! Totally agree with you on the good way to plan a stress-free wedding that reflects YOU!

shams said...

Congratulations to you both! Wow, that tree is so beautiful, I had no idea we had such an interesting tree at City Hall.

Everything about your wedding reflects who you are. Perfect!

Suzanne said...

Congrats to you both!!! You look MAHVELOUS!

On City Hall...my beloved and I eloped and were married in a tiny civil ceremony with our two close friends as witnesses. We went to a Chinese restaurant and a concert and had a day about US on our terms. I could not have handled the emotional and financial burden of a traditional wedding....and why SHOULD I just because it is the done thing?

The whole event cost maybe $100. And best of all, we are still married after nearly 19 years...and still doing things on our terms.

Keep styling!

Eyeliah said...

Oh Congratulations Audi, you both looked lovely!!

freeda said...

Congratulations! It sounds perfect. I officiate weddings and this is the kind I like best... the kind that isn't a parade.

Kimberly said...

Oh Audi, this is just wonderful!! It has been so fun reading about Mark and your relationship growing over the past years. Congratulations and I wish you both nothing but happiness!

Linda said...

Congrats! How fun! It's a beautiful building. It looks perfect for a wedding. Love the fascinator. Best wishes for a wonderful life together.

Tricia said...

Congratulations, Audi! Best wishes to you and Mark.

A-C said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!! I'm so happy for you Audi! I love the dress, the venue, the everything. It is everything I would imagine for you. I wish you and Mark the very best. *hugs*

Nikki said...

I'm a longtime lurker-as in never commented, but I love your blog and I'm super happy for you! Congrats!

Leslie said...

Delurking to offer congratulations! What a nice way to get married.

Got married in a software company myself - was a converted lumber baron's mansion where my husband worked and we wanted a totally secular, informal setting.

Maura said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!

kikimarie said...

Congratulations

Aradia said...

Congrats and best wishes!
I love that dress and that fabulous head piece.

gina said...

Congrats on your marriage! What a lovely wedding oufit!

Sounds like a perfect simple stress-free way to plan a wedding.

neighbourhood.gal said...

Hooray!

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ReaderRita said...

Congratulations! What a great way to have spent your holiday! You both looked fantastic, and most importantly of all- happy!
We got married at city hall also, and we're going to celebrate our 20th anniversary this year- so the "simple" and stress-free wedding thing works! Best wishes to the both of you for a long and incredibly happy life together!

bonincontrus said...

as expected, your wedding announcement was totally UNexpected! LOL Congratulations, you made a beautiful husband and wife (not to mention the hat I am lusting over)

Best wishes for a very happy, loving, and adventurous marriage.

Anonymous said...

Congrats! What a perfect way to start the new year.

Rad_in_Broolyn said...

Congratulations, Audi and Mark! Your wedding looked like a perfect fit for your style and personality. You both look happy and so fashionable. What a cute story about the Burmese restaurant!

Fawn said...

By strange coincidence, I went to a delightful dinner for an awesome couple of newlyweds! And really, what could be more festive than that?

Anonymous said...

Congratulations! All the best for you two!

Magatha-May said...

Oh my god - Congratulations! what a fab surprise.

WendyB said...

You're full of surprises! CONGRATS!

EvaNadine said...

what a lovely surprise!
many, many congratulations, audi!

i LOVE that you did your wedding your way, with your style. the fascinator/hat you created is so gorgeous, just so...YOU!

lsaspacey said...

Congratulations! Great dress, great wedding planning!
And, um for some reason I wasn't surprised, you must have dropped a hint or something earlier.

The Cheap Chick said...

Oh WOW! Congratulations! That is fantastic news! I hope you and Mark have a long and lovely life together. Many blessings on you both.

BrieCS said...

Congratulations! It looks like it was a wonderful ceremony, and you both look amazing!

Peg said...

Well, my goodness! Congratulations to both you and Mark!

Becky said...

WOW! Congratulations! You both look so stunning and happy. I adore the dress and especially the headpiece. I'm so happy for both of you, and I think your idea to have a reception this summer is fantastic. Congratulations again!

tinyjunco said...

Felicitations, Audi!!

we eloped and got married on a beach in Mendocino Dec. 19th, eleven years ago. i really wanted to be able to focus on starting our MARRIAGE, not orchestrating a big party. i'm not surprised at all that you and Mark had the spine and sense to do it the way it would work for you.

and as soon as i read 'we got married' i thought, "City Hall!" you look so beautiful!! Best wishes to you both, steph

meegiemoo said...

Happy Wedding wishes to you and Mark! A perfect wedding for SF's most styling couple.

Tess said...

Congratulations, you look fabulous - and so happy!

Gracey said...

Oh, Audi, congratulations!!! That is just wonderful news. You look gorgeous (you both do) - and I agree with Tess, so happy!!

braxton and yancey said...

Congrats you lovely people you! Wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness from someone who has been happily wedded for 28 yrs. ( and like you didn't have the whole frou-frou wedding thing).
Thanks also for posting the beautiful pics - a gift to us all.

glitterdice said...

Big congrats to you! You got married on my birthday! And strange coincidence, my boyfriend gave me one of your Selena harnesses as a birthday gift! Wonderful! I'm wearing it right now! (also, I am wearing the exact same Fluevog boots too)!

Best wishes to you both!!! And happy new year!

nives56 said...

Long time lurker here. Congratulations? I didn't do anything quite so exciting, but I did go on my first date in over 20 years...

notSupermum said...

Oh wow, how fantastic! Many congratulations to you both xxx

MBZ said...

Wedded bliss !!!
Hoorah, Hip Hip.
Anniversary THIRTY FOUR next week. Let's seeya beat that ;)

Someone said...

Congrats!!

Simple is totally the way to go! (Ours was so simple that the witnesses were the priestess' son and the guy who was delivering her washer and dryer! That was awesome.)

Great way to start the year for sure!

Michelle said...

Oh, what lovely news to start the year with!

Wishing you both very very well :-)

Michelle said...

Oooh, and what did I do for my holiday break? Went hiking, read a tonne of books, attempted to avoid getting sunburnt, went to the local rodeo - I wanna be a barrel racer!

Emma at Daily Clothes Fix said...

Wow, congratulations to both of you. That is so exciting. When I saw the first outfit I thought you guys looked so happy and that it was almost like a wedding shot. And then I read it was. So glad you had a great time and I look forward to seeing you wearing your wedding dress again.

elmendez said...

Wow, I would never have guessed the boots, love it! I'm so happy for you both.

Secret Squirrel said...

Congratulations Audi, to you and to Mark! How lovely. The two of you look marvellous, and comfortable in the venue... And happy. Just the way it should be :-)

Sheila said...

Oh, wow wow wow! I'm so happy for you and Mark (you're such a great couple)! Congratulations, Audi!

Your outfit: of COURSE you had to wear Fluevogs and a handmade hat of your own creations. I would expect nothing less. That dress is totally gorgeous. But most of all, you both look so happy, and that's the best accessory ever.

I completely agree about not overspending. My husband and I spent a total of $4K on our wedding, and we didn't skimp on anything! It was fabulous!

Happy New Year!

hannahdrewdash said...

Best Wishes!

Christine said...

Congratulations!!

My husband and I eloped to Las Vegas - for us that was the perfect wedding.

And because it bears repeating - Congratulations!!

Wendy said...

Congrats!!!!

Long time lurker & big fan of your blog here - I am much in favor of simple weddings.
Weddings should be fun, not a source of anxiety & debt!

Alicia said...

How awesome! Congrats!

Kathleen said...

Congratulations!!

Ms. Ten said...

Hahah, congratulations! I was just skimming over the post to see the pictures, then I read "ceremony" and went "Jigga-what?" and had to scroll back up to read it all from the beginning.

You certainly couldn't have picked a better venue and you both look great together - your fascinator is especially cool and you look so glowing and happy!

karen mouse said...

Congratulations! You and Mark look gorgeous!

Kylara7 said...

Congrats!!! I adore your very personal and wedding in such a beautiful place...I love hearing about people who really do it THEIR way. Tons of happiness and joy to you both :)

Herbee said...

Congratulations Audi and Mark! How exciting!

Nicki said...

Congratulations!! You made a beautiful bride.

Jessica Adkisson said...

CONGRATULATIONS! I love the whole story, and think it's great that you had your wedding YOUR way! Cheers!

Anonymous said...

Congratulations! Simple weddings are the BEST, and your looks like a blast.

Anonymous said...

Delurking in Cadiz, Spain to say "Have a Very Happy Life Together!".
Love your blog, WANT that dress!
Congratulations!

Kelly said...

CONGRATULATIONS! Your wedding sounds perfect.

RB said...

Congratulations! Your simple wedding sounds great!

Emily Kennedy said...

Oh my gosh!!! Congratulations!

I thought my news was big: I had my baby on 12/28/10. We both engaged in the life-changing!

Anonymous said...

CONGRATULATIONS!

My husband and I got married in a similar way, but it was in Vancouver BC, on July 1st, (Canada Day) in the Japanese garden at the University. Only my co-workers knew, and one offered her and her roommate to stand up for us, and one gave me a bouquet of pink roses from her garden. I wore a green silk dress with home-made hat, and my husband wore gray trousers with a pink shirt. My co-worker invited us to their place for champagne and cheesecake (my fave) and we took them out for dinner at our favorite downtown eatery. Our landlord drove around the block honking for us when we arrived home, and it was a beautiful simple wedding. It rained most of the day, but stopped for enough time for us to exchange vows next to the koi pond. Brings back good memories for me. I agree, no reason to begin a marriage in debt.

All the best!

Anonymous said...

the only regret I might have is that I didn't wear fluevogs, oh well, making up for it now, and what a great idea for anniversary presents to each other!

Lisa said...

Congrats! What a lovely couple you two make.

Anonymous said...

Congratulations! You both look wonderful.

I'm currently trying to figure out how to get married this year without spending very much and SF City Hall is a rather tempting option. Glad to hear it worked so well for you two.

Destrehan's Daughter said...

Congratulations Audi! I love your fascinator.

orchidsinbuttonholes said...

Congratulations! How wonderful, and you look absolutely gorgeous. LOVE the headpiece!

Betty Scandretti said...

What a perfect wedding! Congratulations!

Colleen said...

Great. I love this wedding story.
We wanted to get married at City Hall but didn't know how to do it. We couldn't figure it out a few years ago. So we ended up doing a ceremony with 10 people at the Pocono Mountains and then had a reception later.

Abs said...

Whoa, I didn't expect that! Congratulations!

Between Laundry Days said...

Oh, Audi, congratulations! This is such wonderful, love-filled news, and I couldn't be happier for you and Mark.

Kelley said...

haha, definitely did not expect that! Perhaps I remember incorrectly, but I seem to recall you saying in previous posts that marriage was not for you? :P
Congratulations and best wishes!

Audi said...

Kelley: Haha, no, it is kids that aren't for me; I have nothing against marriage!

Maya said...

Congrats!! Looks like a perfect wedding day. My partner and I got "domesticated" in much the same way. Both of us wore our Fluevogs too. ;)

angie said...

A very belated congratulations to you and Mark! Wishing you a lifetime of happiness and loads of love and laughter. What a fabulously turned out couple :)

poet said...

Congratulations! This sounds great - understated, non-stressy, what more could one want? Like eloping but without the hide-and-seek... Thanks for setting an example way away from the mainstream marriage hype.

Cheers,
poet

Franca said...

Oh man, congratulations, this is so exciting! I love your fascinator!

I am getting in September, and our actual wedding day is going to be similar. Registry office ceremony and lunch! Not enough people do this kind of thing. It's just so weird that £5000 is considered a budget wedding these days!

Northmoon said...

What a great way to do a wedding. You both look fabulous, I love your outfit - the hat especially.

Congradulations, and may your marriage be long, prosperous, healthy and happy!!!

Sal said...

Durr, can't believe I forgot to comment - I commented in my mind! YOU LOOK RADIANT! And both of you look so fantastically happy. Mazel Tov to you and Mark!

Meadow Walk said...

Congratulations! And what beautiful pictures!!!

Oh what did *I* do... uhhhh I got my Masters degree? And graduated? Which is why I am behind on my blog reading. Was a titch busy. I was so surprised to see this post! In a good way.

Best wishes to you both for a long happy life together!

Kat G said...

Congratulations! You look gloriously happy together.

My husband and I married at the courthouse in Urbana, IL, surrounded by 5 physicists as our witnesses. Such a simple communion made a powerful impact on us.

Wishing you a life time of happiness together.

Stephanie N. said...

I know I'm commenting terribly ex-post-facto, but I've been getting caught up on like 2 months of blog-reading (seriously, it's a project), and I squealed when I saw this. So I'm de-lurking just to say congratulations. I'm not at all surprised that your nuptials were simple, and not one of those OMG-I'm-getting-married-and-it's-what-my-whole-is-about-right-now affair. And I'm not surprised that you kept it a secret from us until after the fact. :-)

I still adore your blog. I think I've been reading for at least a few years now. I'd visit and comment more often if it weren't such a hassle to do so on my iPhone. You continue to inspire me. Thank you.

Kristin said...

Woohoo! I know I'm awfully behind on commenting, but I had to add my congratulations to you and Mark! Spontaneous, stylish, earnest ... looks like an amazing wedding to me!

I'm always energized by your posts, Audi, but this one went above and beyond.

Healthy and Homemade said...

Dude the heck!! How did I miss this post??

Oh that's right, bad internet and a dying laptop for the past few months. I'm lame. Anyway, congratulations!! Your anniversary is 3 days after mine =D

You look stunning in these photos, what a lovely wedding!! My husband and I got married in the downtown city hall here in San Diego, it was short and simple and completely perfect for us =)