Thursday, August 5, 2010

Magical


Today is a great day for California. Justice and equality have finally prevailed, and the horrible Prop 8 has been struck down! I'm so excited I could squeal for joy. San Francisco is abuzz with excitement, and all over the city there were celebrations last night.

When same sex marriages were first legalized in California back in June 2008, I was living in my old apartment that was just a few minutes' walk from City Hall. Immediately there were couples lined up anxiously outside, and all through the neighborhood I could see people happily on their way to exercise their long-awaited right to marry. It was a truly magical time to be in San Francisco. The whole city seemed aglow with love and joy. One of the sweetest things I've ever seen was two handsome men all decked out in their tuxes, hand in hand, running towards City Hall and laughing with delight.

Seeing all this happen really brought home to me what it must be like to be denied the right to marry the person you love. So many couples said to hell with the big wedding, the catering, the flowers, the fancy location (although I shouldn't knock City Hall; it's a pretty damn gorgeous building) -- these people were deeply in love and they had waited, perhaps for many years, and they simply couldn't wait anymore. And there was something so profoundly romantic about that, because being able to get married is so taken for granted by the rest of us that we'll put it off for months or even years while we save up the necessary money and search for the perfect location, the perfect dress, the perfect caterer. But when all you really want is to marry that person, it's the only thing that matters, isn't it? And for those couples, no amount of gifts and no number of guests could have made their moment any more special. What is an everyday thing for the rest of us was a history-making achievement for them. The simple right to love someone and marry them; does anything symbolize life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness any better than that? 

The struggle is of course far from over, but with this decision we've made an important step in the right direction. The time WILL come when marriage equality is a national policy and not just a statewide one, I really believe that. But I'm happy to see California being among the first; this is the California I'm proud to be a part of.

In related news, one of my hats is being worn to a gay wedding this weekend, and I am beyond thrilled. :-)

Dress: J. Crew
Cardigan: a gift from Mom
Tights: Hue
Shoes: John Fluevog 

26 comments:

Sewing Pixie said...

On a day celebrating love and marriage you look like a valentine. (In a romantic, good way. Not a conversation heart way.)

Kimberly said...

Yay for Prop 8 being struck down! Yay for you looking gorgeous! Yay for fab cardis from nice mamas!

kristophine said...

I LOVE that dress/cardigan combination! It's just so vibrant!

I look forward to the appeals process, but yeah, any day that Prop 8's legitimacy is meaningfully questioned is a good day.

Rebecca said...

I'm happy for everyone in California. I hope Minnesota catches up soon.

That cardigan is cute. Your mom has good taste.

Emily Kennedy said...

The news about Prop 8 getting struck down totally made me and my two friends dance around and squeal last night. So awesome!!!

Awesome enough to be perfectly paired with a swingy red dress, which looks amazing on you.

Sheila said...

You look gorgeous in this outfit! Love it.

My husband and I were both so excited to hear about gay marriage being legal again in California - I loved reading what the judge said (good article on Slate: http://www.slate.com/id/2262766/). We are hugely proud to have gay marriage legal in Canada, and so pleased to see things changing in the US. Hurrah!

Kevon said...

Marry 'em all and let god sort 'em out, I say. Good riddance to Prop 8, may we all live and love as we choose. Really cute outfit.

Megan Mae said...

Congrats to California!

Your outfit is super sweet. Red, black and white combos are my favorite.

Tamara said...

That's a good outfit for a good day! I have a similar cardigan that I hesitate to wear -- I like the way of this tie from the front, but it looks too bulky from the side. Maybe I'll give it a try now...

notSupermum said...

It was very unfair that gay people couldn't marry, why should they be refused the right to be miserable? Bitter, moi?

Lovely outfit btw.

Peg said...

Lovely outfit! Hey, I'm rocking a red dress today, too.

I am SO happy about Prop 8 being struck down, too. I actually watched the first four days of the trial reenactment on the website www.marriagetrial.com. I thought the yes on Prop 8's case was miserable, but was still worried. The judge's ruling (especially the findings of fact) was great.

Sal said...

It's a triumph for love! And about damned time!

Sewing Pixie is right on - you're like a living Valentine. Yay!

La Historiadora de Moda said...

I know there will be appeals, but the decision seemed so well-argued that it will hopefully stand and continue to be a triumph for love and equality!

I love the pairing of the cardi with this dress!

dcresider said...

Awesome outfit!!

Heather said...

very cute outfit love the red~ I just started following your blog and I enjoy seeing your creativity poor through your outfits....I recently moved out to California from the east coast and I find that out west here it is much more relaxed and I feel that it is very liberating as well how everyone is more comfortable expressing themselves. I just love California I find it very freeing...I wonder if others feel this way? ~We recently visited San Francisco and my children declared it is their favorite city and they absolutely loved it.... we had so much fun visitng. ~ anyhow thanks for being a fashion Muse!! ~love Heather

Destrehan's Daughter said...

That is the best news I have heard in a long time!

scicurious said...

WoooHooo! It's a great day.

Louise said...

I LOVE this post! The dress, your memories, your happiness. Thank you!

ReaderRita said...

Red is the best color for celebration!!! Your outfit seems to graphically mirror the elan of granting two people who love each other the right to marry- festive, elegant, and absolutely spot on!!!

Diana said...

This is such a fantastic outfit, and I love the cardigan!

And thank you for that lovely story - it's such a beautiful depiction of love, and I agree with you that many straight couples take the ability to marry for granted.

Melanie said...

Unrelated to your post, but an LA friend just posted this on her Facebook:

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Emma at Daily Clothes Fix said...

Wow, what a great outfit to celebrate: you look amazing. I bet it's party time in San Fran.

Audi said...

notSupermum: Oh sure, you say that now, but just wait til you meet some charming chap who sweeps you off your feet. Perhaps a nice tree surgeon. ;-)

Melanie: Thanks for the tip -- I'll check it out.

Clare said...

This is a beautifully-written tribute to love. Yeah for proposition 8 being struck down!

jenn said...

Fantastic outfit for a fantastic day!

Healthy and Homemade said...

YAY for California. We're excited down here, let's hear it for equality dammit!!

you look gorgeous =D